Marriage is good because God is good

I’m a bit shame-faced that I’m not quite the effusive new bride that some people hope I will be. At least it would make the conversation more bearable when they ask, “How’s married life?” Especially when they greet me with a really loud, “Hello Mrs CHOO!”, I turn around and I’m thinking, Err who are you? while giving them my best smile.

At least I could regale them with stories of how exciting the honeymoon was, how wonderful my husband is, how good the food I am eating daily at our aunty’s place, how sexy my new Kenwood mixer is. Instead I just say “oh it’s ok” (because it really is!) or a “well, it feels the same” (because it really does!).

But these tales would not give you a good idea of what marriage is like. In any case, most people wouldn’t count our honeymoon exciting (we played badminton and chess mainly), my husband isn’t always wonderful (me neither), I eat way too much over here (I’m not complaining, just saying…) and the mixer is just a machine, tis all. So what gives? How is married life, really?

Well, marriage is, indeed, good. It is good because God is good. God made marriage and calls it very good (Genesis 1:31). Depending on the time or day you ask me, I might give a different take on married life ( ) but this truth doesn’t change. Marriage is good because God is good.

God calls marriage very good because he instituted it to fulfill his purposes. He created wives as helpers to their husbands, and husbands as loving leaders for their wives. I find that when I am willing to align myself with God’s purposes, that’s when I enjoy my marriage the most.

Without this understanding, a person might take a “very good” answer from me to mean there are no difficulties in marriage life at all, and that’s not real. On the other hand, I don’t wish to discourage others from marriage by telling them how hard it can be. Worst of all, I do not want to pressure the singles into thinking marriage is the ultimate source of fulfillment. This statement is true too – Singleness is good because God is good!

So the next time you ask, “How’s married life?”, remember you are asking a very profound question! May my answer to your question speak of the glories of God. (Just don’t catch me on a bad day.)